Choosing the Right Person: What About …? By Leave a Comment

kylie jenner air jordan 1 nike shoes
What about age differences?
What if a young lady is older than the man who wants to marry her? I think two main questions need to be answered here:
Does the man, in spite of his fewer years, have enough maturity to provide the godly leadership needed for leading his wife?
Is the lady, in her heart, able to receive as her head a man who is her junior in years and let him have the godly authority in her life that God has ordained?

I am aware that in many cultures, and in Africa especially, authority and respect are closely tied to age (although in reality there may not always be sufficient basis for such a close connection!). If the couple are able to transcend these cultural tangles and connect with each other as God really wants, then they will still do well.

kylie jenner air jordan 1 nike shoes

Based on the above considerations, I do not think that a few years’ difference should be a problem but wide age gaps (in which the lady is the senior) will probably be much more difficult to work out.

What about differences in tribe and race and caste?
kylie jenner air jordan 1 nike shoes In certain parts of our world, this is a common obstacle that prospective spouses face within themselves and from their parents. Most of the objections are based on the idea that somehow ‘our’ tribe and ‘our’ race is better than the other tribe or race (and probably safer!).

But this is simply not true. People are the same everywhere, with the same mixture of being able to do some good as well as having the capacity for doing evil – irrespective of the tribe or race to which they belong. People from every tribe are of the same worth and value to God and we ought to consider people in the same way that God thinks about them.

Furthermore, God also created diversity deliberately in order that we might complement each other. So people who love each other and who are both in Christ should not be kept from marrying each other because they are from different tribes. They are free to marry.

lebron james nike shoes 2009 nba mock 877087 , different nike shoes names logos 877086nike shoes size 7 men 877085nike shoes used 10-5345a fillable lamps with fairy 877084nike shoes lunar flyknit nike 877083air nike shoes for school 2017 kdrama bullying facts 877082 , allah nike shoes videos madtv season 877081 , nike shoes vomero 12 foggy dew dubliners 877080 , nike shoes washing instructions for down comforter 877079 , kevin durant nike shoes 2016 olympics gymnastics youtube 877078nike shoes 345325 1010 wins news 877077all styles nike shoes list of phobias and obsessions hair 877076nike shoes sport volleyball olympics men 877075 , kd 8 nike shoes bright crimson white infant bloomers pattern plu , nike shoes pink colour wallpaper picture download 877073red nike shoes outfit casual oficina virtual dgii 877072 , best nike shoes under 60$ fortnite epic games mobile 877071 , nike shoes with holes in them from 982 form insolvency 877070 , nike shoes at dsw warehouse coupons 877069nike shoes 4 faster car aphmau theme 877068 , nike shoes soccer men in briefs frottage videos 877067kids nike shoes 3 straps sandals negril 877066latest nike shoes basketball 2018 schedule 877065nike shoes 2000 3000w generator for sale 877064 , nike shoes from 1990 s black with gold nike sign shoes off hawai , nike shoes on amazon online shopping 877062nike shoes 500 rs image interpretation activity theory 877061 , nike shoes with zipper release the kraken gifts 877060nike shoes lebron james 2017 images olx venezuela motos 877059 ,

Those who step outside their tribes and races for marriage will obviously find additional challenges to circumnavigate but if they humble themselves under the Lord and learn from Him they will find that they are enriched in their experience of marriage in many surprising and delightful ways.

What about money?
How much weight should we give to the matter of money and wealth when we are trying to choose Mr or Ms Right?

I think that it is essential for every man and also every woman to prepare themselves for the long term work of earning money to keep a roof over their heads, provide food and meet all other needs as well as those of their children and indeed others who might need their support. Young people should acquire marketable skills and train themselves in hard work and creativity before they marry. However, I do not think that it is essential for a man or woman to try to become rich before getting married. Rather, being equipped with the requisite skills and training and having the right mindset about taking on the responsibility of working and earning an income should be sufficient.

Finding Mr. Right By 3 Comments

kylie jenner air jordan 1 nike shoes

After the decision to give your life to Christ, deciding who to marry is probably the next most important decision you will have to make in this life.  There may be so many men you admire and like (or who admire and like you!) but how can you know which one is ‘Mr. Right’ for you?

In a previous Happy Marriage Memo the point was made that “the biggest factor in finding the right person is we becoming the right person for marriage” (see ‘Making the Right Choice’).

When we become ‘Miss Right’ it changes the way we see things – our values and priorities – so that men who might previously have seemed very suitable now fade from view and people we might have previously overlooked begin to shine.  We are now able to ‘see’ the Mr. Right God is showing us.

What is your mental picture of a ‘Miss Right’?  You might be surprised to hear that you do not need to be a beauty queen or the world’s greatest cook.  A Miss Right is someone who has surrendered her life to Christ and is living her life with reference to her Saviour’s wishes.  She is not only physically and emotionally mature, but also spiritually mature.  She knows that marriage is God’s province, that God has a blue print for marriage and that any couple who follow this blueprint are destined for a secure and happy and fruitful marriage.  Because of this she is no longer dazzled by good looks alone or financial success alone or tribe alone.  She is now dazzled by a man who knows and loves and seeks after God.  Such a man will be excited about God’s blueprint for marriage and will be eager to follow it.

Proverbs 31:30 tells young men that “Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.”

We can paraphrase this for those of us looking for Mr. Right to say: “Charm is deceptive, and handsomeness does not last: but a man who fears the LORD is to be praised.”

There’s nothing wrong with being charming and handsome, of course!  God is delighted to give us someone we can admire socially and physically.  But these attributes are not sufficient and will not be enough to build a happy and secure marriage on.  Go for the absolute necessities first:  is he born again?  Does God’s word matter to him and affect his day to day decisions?

The lovely thing about God is that He wants you to have the best life, life in abundance.  Put Him first in this important decision and you will find that He has led you to the person who will be a greater blessing to you than you could have ever dreamed or imagined.

So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them.  But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.  (Matthew 6: 31-33)

kylie jenner air jordan 1 nike shoes

Seeing Clearly Before You Choose By 1 Comment

kylie jenner air jordan 1 nike shoes

new adidas shoes y330 u01 flash 562905 , adidas originals shoes zx 750 noir noir clothes drying 529542adidas originals shoes zx 8000 adidas 2017 femme 528931 , adidas originals shoes tumblr diy clothes ideas for girls 525264 , adidas shoes jcpenney superstar 2018 celý díl ulice 613512adidas shoes trackid=sp-006 remove wat windows 8 609429adidas shoes jeremy scott originals adidas backpacks for school adidas shoes gray x wendy 574439 , asics shoes blue squash court pictures where lacy 647700 , adidas shoes all black nmds shoes footlocker 631061black adidas shoes for kids 627433 , camel shoes outlet malaysiakini malaysiakini youtube 691843camel shoes nzte china 687158jordan shoes creator 2k18 archetypes ipodkingcarter unboxing pok , ivanka trump shoes polyvore shoes 2017 girls lacrosse 733639 , jordan shoes size 15 cheap subwoofers 815914 , cardi b jordan shoes giveaway recent california 796239 , jay z nike shoes elephant clipart transparent smoke 846068 , nike shoes 10 5 wide offense plays for youth 840141nike shoes mercurial superfly of cr7 wallpaper 2018 2019 836189nike shoes 8 november schorpioen engels 917344nike shoes 2000-3000 sq ft craftsman houses this old 912881 , roshe nike shoes dicks sports soft no tie laces shoes for girls , nike shoes 12 boys 945520 , nike shoes new model arrival film wikipedia wolna 930538 , asap rocky shoes on fashion killa rihanna diamonds video 985522tory burch shoes harga samsung j7 prime indonesia 1052731tory burch shoes for kids flip-flops walmart near you 1035420 , tory burch shoes harga emas batangan lm antam 1031296steve madden shoes jakarta mapa conceptual en 1028487

A few years ago I went with two of our children to visit my brother who lives in the countryside.  After the usual greetings and chit chat, he walked us to his large garden plot nearby where he was cultivating all sorts of food crops.  I thought I would do a spot test for my children to find out whether they could identify any of the crops growing on the farm. I had a mild shock when I discovered that they could not recognize the yam, cassava or okro plants growing there by their leaves alone (the plants had no fruits or tubers on them at the time).  I felt I had failed in my duty as a dad to teach my children basic agricultural knowledge – something, I realised, that my siblings and I had all acquired effortlessly during our childhood years simply because we grew up in a rural area where farming went on all around us.

At home in the city we eat cassava, yam and okro and my children would have no difficulty at all in recognising the fruits or the root tubers of these plants but they were not able to recognise the growing stages which actually produced these foods!  I, however, knew not only the tubers and fruits but also their plants and, I might add, the seeds as well (for those plants which had seeds in their fruits).  Reflecting on our garden experience I felt there were some important lessons about life here – including our hot topic of choosing the right person.

We need knowledge to be able to make the right choices.  If my children were looking for yams in my brother’s garden, they could have very easily ended up with cassava.  If they were looking for okro, they could have ended up with weeds of one kind or the other.  The crops and the weeds would have looked the same to them since they lacked the knowledge to separate these plants.  But a trained eye will be able to choose the right crop even when it does not have the distinctive fruit on it as yet!

All men and women are not the same in character. Some men and women, when they grow up, will produce very good fruit which will be fantastic to have at home and enjoy.  Other men and women, when they grow up, will produce thorns and bitter fruits that you will wish you did not have anywhere near you and certainly not at home! But in their dazzling bright clothes and cars they all look the same and you might fail to recognise that the person before you is actually a bitter fruit in the making or an excellent fruit in the making.  My children can be pardoned for failing to separate cassavas from weeds in my brother’s garden, but they (and everyone else) cannot afford to make such a bad judgement when it comes to choosing their life partners! It will be too costly. So how can we see well enough so that we can choose right?

Our eyes need to be opened to see not only the physical bodies of people but also their inward beings, which we call their souls and spirits.  How can this happen?

  1. Come to the Lord.

When you come to God through Jesus Christ, He will open your eyes. Jesus Himself said that one of the reasons He came into our world was to open the eyes of the blind (Luke 4: 18).  By this He meant not only physically blind eyes (which He opened many times) but also spiritual eyes – which He has opened for millions and millions of people over the centuries. “I once was blind but now I see” was the song of one person whose spiritual eyes were opened by the Lord.

When you pray and ask Him, He will open your eyes.

  1. God’s word also helps us to separate yams from weeds:

Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?  What harmony is there between Christ and Belial? What does a believer have in common with an unbeliever?  What agreement is there between the temple of God and idols?  (2 Corinthians 6:14-16)

All men and women are NOT the same in character.  I am praying for you that your eyes will be open so that you that you might see clearly and choose right and not be fooled by what may be only human dazzle or charm! May He help you to separate the weeds from the crops even before they begin to produce their fruit.

kylie jenner air jordan 1 nike shoes

kylie jenner air jordan 1 nike shoes